a long time ago when i was teaching for HeadStart, i attended a seminar on grief by Dr Wolfelt. his approach was one i would remember to this day as he did not try to romanticize death or to make the deceased be recalled only with good thoughts, leaving out the pain and harshness, the difficult personality that they may have had.Dr W had a quick wit from what i recall and he made talking and hearing about crossing over and those left to mourn somewhat easy.
He brought humor and straightforward words to a subject that many have so much trouble dealing with and finding expression of ... he made it ok in my mind - no, more than ok. he gave me ways to deal with helping my students learn ways to cope not only with the huge losses like death of a person but of learning new ways to handle changes and issues they could not possible understand.
i am very glad to have been a part of that seminar and to have those memories to fall back on...and the website to visit. it is hard to find grief counselors who can really impart anything helpful i have found.
one of the best things i learned was that it is OK to remember the totality of my mom and all the faults as well as the beauty. To do anything less would be to belittle her existence...to deny that she was real.
just an FYI for anyone looking...
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Very, very nice. Perhaps YOU should consider taking up the torch as a grief counselor. It only seems natural to me.
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